The same or not the same, that is the question.

Just wondering, for those who are married or are on the lookout, would you prefer one whose interest is almost similar to yours or one whose interests is almost different from yours?

Strange question? Not really, I guess when you are looking for a life partner, you would be with her for the rest of your life. There are two sides to this 'coin' like all other 'coins'.

If your interest is very different, would there be communication or exchanges? I guess it is quite difficult because you would not know where to start a conversation, because you do not have any idea abt her interest. But from another point of view, once the conversation is started, there are so many things to talk abt and it can be quite exciting because you will be learning new stuff and new interest.

If your interest is almost the same, well chances are the conversation would be easy to start since you also know what are the talking point of a interest to start a conversation, but it can get boring later since you would know most of the stuff anyway. The excitement is at the start like, where to find new source of inspiration and information to sustain and provide new direction in your interest and so on.

I guess to a certain extent, there should be similar interest and to another extent, have dis-similar interest. But the thing is, there are existing examples for both side of the story.
There are couples whose interest is dissimilar and still able to be happily married together and of course the opposite does occur logically speaking.

So interests does not really dictate whether two people should be together. There must be another thing that binds a couple together besides interest. What would that be?

I guess as long as you are comfortable and happy with someone, you would still be able to live a happy life together. And the best would be to find one whose strength complements your strengths and her weakness is ur strengths and vice versa.

I think another quality I would look for is would she be able to spur me on, give me the necessary support since I would be going into entrepreneurship.

Cheers!

The same old question

I guess I must be asking myself too many questions lately.

Anyway, yes, in this entry I am going to talk abt the same old qn "Who should you save if you found your Mum and Wife in the river? (note here, not girlfriend anymore, You are stuck with her for the rest of your life, bad move and you are &^*%* for the rest of your life).

This qn is definitely going to be as tough or slightly easier than the World's Toughest Qn. I would definitely try to avoid having my mum and my wife to be present at the same time when this qn is asked. My guess is most of my audience would know what my answer to that qn is. Hehe.

The next logical qn to be asked would be "What would happen if you are really caught in a situation where both are present and the qn is asked?" Some frens said claiming stomachache would be a good excuse, but if you rush to the toilet, the two most impt ladies in your life is going to wait for you outside the toilet and the toilet is a bad place to be caught stuck in. Especially if you really did, coincidentaly, have a stomachache then.

Actually a good excuse would be one where you are able to step out of the house so that you can avoid them altogether. Now that is a great excuse to get out of that situation, and not forced to give an answer.

Actually in Lun Yu, a compilation of Confucius and his disciples words, there is a mentioned that filial piety will decide the character of a man. If he is filial to his parents, chances are the man could not be rotten or bad in character. It is unlikely he will offend his superiors or be rude to elderly and would be more caring to other people. Chinese got a saying 百善孝为先, in English (rough translation) means the root of all kindness is filial piety. Which I think it is true. Talk to most of my lady friends and they said the first thing to look for in a man is whether he is filial to his parents or not. The reason they gave is similar to what is stated in Lun Yu, if a guy cannot take good care of his parents, how can she expect him to take good care of her?

I guess now most people would know my true answer to the qns. So ladies please be understanding when your husband actually answer he will save his mum instead of you. Sounds ironic here, but it means that you have gotten a good catch since a lot of people are saying that filial piety is becoming dead in this modern society. Look on the bright side, at least your son would save you instead of his wife. :P

Another advice, pls stay away from any water bodies if you do not know how to swim. Haha.

World Toughest Question

It has been such a long time since I blog, apologies for those that are waiting for my next blog. Haha!

As the title says, I am going to write something about the World’s Toughest Question. Why do I say it is the toughest is because the answer is not easily obtained and required a huge amount of courage to find the answer. Another problem is that although it is the world’s toughest question, everyone (well, almost all) would definitely ask this question at least once in their lifetime.

Ok, I shall not hold you guys in suspense. The World’s Toughest Question is “How can one know whether a lady/man likes him/her or not?” So? How is it? Tough right? And definitely you would ask yourself this question when you start to have feelings for someone.

Asking this question is a start to emotional roller coaster ride. First thing first. You need to find the answer to that question first and the direct approach is seldom used because it can be quite embarrassing, especially when the answer is something that you are not hoping for, especially in the Asian Culture where ‘face’ is very important. The indirect approach, as most people would use is to befriend his/her close friends. Then from this group of people, seek your answers. But this indirect approach takes too long and would be torturous for you if you are so deeply infatuated with this person.

If by some luck, chance or even miracle, you are able to find the answer, the next thing would be to take the appropriate step

1) Let your feelings for him/her be known to him/her

This approach is usually taken if you found out that he/she has feelings for you as well.(Congratulations!) Or you are extremely desperate to have her, which could result into a disaster if he/she decides to avoid you altogether! Down slope all the way for this roller coaster!! Argh……..!!

2) Use your network that you established with his/her group to get close to her. Then start providing hints of your intentions, hope she catches them and cross all available fingers you have that he/she may decide to further the relationship. This could be long and definitely painful process because you have to keep guessing whether he/she understands the hints you drop or not.

3) Give him/her up altogether. How long this pain is going last will depends how long you get over him/her.

Whatever it is, the whole episode would be a roller coaster ride be it if he/she rejects you or in the end you got married together. It is a matter of whether the episode would result in more pain or more happiness.

For my case, more pain then happiness as yet, but I guess as long as I am a human, I would be constantly asking myself the World’s Toughest Question and be tortured by it. ARGH……………!!!! Who can help me!?!?!?!?

Anyway, Cheers and a Happy Chinese Lunar New Year to all! : )