See no weapons but be warned, I am armed!

So how can one be still armed when he does not carry any weapon at all?? Haha, somebody forgot abt the mouth.

Always be careful what you say to people. Words that come out of our mouth can sometime have devastating effect and worse, sometime lingering effect on people's lives. I am sure most people would have or at least seen such an example where the boss scolded a colleague over certain mistakes and later on become personal attacks like, "Why you so stupid?", "Are you an idiot, is it?", "Where is your brain?" and in the end the colleagues become very afraid to take the task again. Words coming from one's mouth completely devastated a person confidence, something that a physical weapon cannot do.

So always be careful what you said to people. Especially when one is hot-headed. It would be best to cool down during extreme emotions and once cooled down, think it through what you want to say.

If you going to say something that you are very sure would hurt someone, why bother to say it then? So that you can get it off the chest? But have you thought of the consequences?? Just because you want to get it off the chest abt certain issue and in the end cause so much hurt and grief to other people. Is it worth it? I believe we are in this world not to cause hurt but to help each other out and make this world a better place. So why bother to say something that will definitely be hurtful?

That is why i always assess what I am going to say to people. This is esp impt when I am conducting training. I try as much as possible not to make it seems like the trainees' mistake even if it is theirs. Because they are learning something at the moment and mistakes would happen. What I can or maybe others in my position should do is to help them know where the mistakes is, instead of stressing that they made the mistake, and use the mistake to help them learn and encourage them to explore more.

Now many would say, what if I have a scenario where I discover my best friend's spouse is cheating on him/her. Should I tell my best friend abt it? Well, I for one would, but I will choose an appropriate time to tell. The same sentence and tone when told at a different time can have different effect. Take note of this, control your emotions and learn to control what you say. In this way, you will not hurt, or at least reduce the damage to the minimum.

What comes out of our mouth can have very devastating effect. Please take note of this. :)

Cheers!