Aren't they twins?
Just came back from temple and suddenly this qn pop into my mind. (I was wondering did I inherit a magician's brain, how come qns keep on popping up :P) The qn is "Success and failure, which has more things to learn from?" Now many literature and biographies says that Failure has more things to learn from. Is it true? Why is there more things to learn from? *scratch head* Because we have paid a price for our mistake thus it has more things to learn from? What abt success? We also pay a price for success, don't we? Let's have a look at both of them.
Failure is usually something we have paid a price for it and gained nothing tangible back, but if we are able to find out the reason why we fail, then we would have gained something intangible back. Failure usually is very difficult to stomach especially in Singapore where failure is seen as a stigma in life. Once u fail, the failure will usually stick to and haunt you for the rest of your life. Unless you are able to turn the tables around and score a huge success, then your past failure seems to amplify your success in many people's eyes.
Failure being difficult to stomach, not a lot of people are able to accept it and by not accepting it, they fail to realise to first step of finding out the reason why they fails. And even if you are able to accept your failure, you have to spend sometime thinking out what is the reason you fail and human psychology is such that you start blaming other people and not ownself, taking immense effort to bring your thought process to find out the actual reason of failure and what share of the failure you should account for. And even if your truly found out the crux of your failure, unless you paid a very high price for it, chances are, you may be back to your old ways and commit the same mistake but maybe in another circumstances.
So coming back, now I realise why they said failure has a greater lesson to learn from, because it takes a lot of effort to realise the actual reason of failure, judging by the realization process mentioned above. And during the process, you actually go through a self realization process, knowing more about yourself, how your thinking is wired and how you behave. So I guess there is a lot to learn in Failure.
Success is something a lot of people want, mostly for material success and once that is succeeded they move on to what Maslow call "Self Actualization" needs, achieving spiritual success. So is there anything to learn from success? I think there is a lot also. Let's go thru the process.
Success usually means something have been done right. So you have to find out the reason why you succeeded, learn from it and try to apply to other areas you want to achieve success. Success can come with minimum effort and maximum result and usually it comes with tangible and intangible benefits. So even if you do not realise the reason why you succeeded, you already have something to gain from. This usually distract people from thinking what is the reason for success and repeat it again, because they have gained something already and too comfortable to spend more time finding it out.
Again, some self effort has to be made to make yourself sit down and find out the reason of success. And again human psychology is such that you attribute the whole of success to yourself and because of this u realise that it is inbuild in you and you think it can be repeated again. So in the end, people would rather just enjoy what they have gained from their success and forget abt finding out the reason for success. So it seems like why success does not have much to learn from is because people choose not to learn more. They only just want to enjoy the success they have. It is a matter of choice. But i must say I am not advocating u do not enjoy your success. You should enjoy it because it does not come easy. Do spend some time finding out what you did right and "imprint" in your brain and repeat it to enjoy more moment of success.
So it seems like failure has more things to learn from compared to success, but both is a matter of choice and good self-restrain and if I have my way, I want to learn from both :D
Have fun learning both. Cheers!
Failure is usually something we have paid a price for it and gained nothing tangible back, but if we are able to find out the reason why we fail, then we would have gained something intangible back. Failure usually is very difficult to stomach especially in Singapore where failure is seen as a stigma in life. Once u fail, the failure will usually stick to and haunt you for the rest of your life. Unless you are able to turn the tables around and score a huge success, then your past failure seems to amplify your success in many people's eyes.
Failure being difficult to stomach, not a lot of people are able to accept it and by not accepting it, they fail to realise to first step of finding out the reason why they fails. And even if you are able to accept your failure, you have to spend sometime thinking out what is the reason you fail and human psychology is such that you start blaming other people and not ownself, taking immense effort to bring your thought process to find out the actual reason of failure and what share of the failure you should account for. And even if your truly found out the crux of your failure, unless you paid a very high price for it, chances are, you may be back to your old ways and commit the same mistake but maybe in another circumstances.
So coming back, now I realise why they said failure has a greater lesson to learn from, because it takes a lot of effort to realise the actual reason of failure, judging by the realization process mentioned above. And during the process, you actually go through a self realization process, knowing more about yourself, how your thinking is wired and how you behave. So I guess there is a lot to learn in Failure.
Success is something a lot of people want, mostly for material success and once that is succeeded they move on to what Maslow call "Self Actualization" needs, achieving spiritual success. So is there anything to learn from success? I think there is a lot also. Let's go thru the process.
Success usually means something have been done right. So you have to find out the reason why you succeeded, learn from it and try to apply to other areas you want to achieve success. Success can come with minimum effort and maximum result and usually it comes with tangible and intangible benefits. So even if you do not realise the reason why you succeeded, you already have something to gain from. This usually distract people from thinking what is the reason for success and repeat it again, because they have gained something already and too comfortable to spend more time finding it out.
Again, some self effort has to be made to make yourself sit down and find out the reason of success. And again human psychology is such that you attribute the whole of success to yourself and because of this u realise that it is inbuild in you and you think it can be repeated again. So in the end, people would rather just enjoy what they have gained from their success and forget abt finding out the reason for success. So it seems like why success does not have much to learn from is because people choose not to learn more. They only just want to enjoy the success they have. It is a matter of choice. But i must say I am not advocating u do not enjoy your success. You should enjoy it because it does not come easy. Do spend some time finding out what you did right and "imprint" in your brain and repeat it to enjoy more moment of success.
So it seems like failure has more things to learn from compared to success, but both is a matter of choice and good self-restrain and if I have my way, I want to learn from both :D
Have fun learning both. Cheers!
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