Nice Fit!
Yesterday nite just went to a couple's place for dinner. I got to know this couple through a gd fren of mine. We were there to have a sharing session although most of the time the couple was sharing with us their experience. Haha! So paiseh. But anyway, it is not the content of the conversation that I want to share with you guys. What I wanted to talk abt is the interaction and quality of relationship the couple has shown to me.
The husband was trying his hand at frying fish fillet for us, guests. I think it was his first time trying his hand on it, so there were some embarrasing moment, and of course like all first time cook, some of the fish got burnt (actually when I look at it, it was not that bad, I might have done worst than him. Haha!) Of course being the guests, we were offered the better tasting & looking fish fillet. What I saw was something I hope I can bring to my relationship with my future wife (if there is one). The husband took out the 'defect' fish fillet and offering to his kids and wife, apologising to them for letting them eat the fillets, but the wife was very supportive, by telling her spouse that, she will eat whatever he cook. After marriage for more than 5 years, I am surprise to see this form of encouragement and also the affections between them still strong, because they still call each other 'Dear'.
Most of the time when I see couples that are married, this kind of show of affection seem to die down very fast. Sometimes when they go out, they even stop holding hands. And also the encouragement that they give to each other is gone. They are like two people living together because the marriage certificate dictate so.
For my friends out there who are reading this, some of you has asked me what kind of girl I am looking for. Well here is what I can say to you (but of course there are other criterias). Firstly, I must be able to see whether there can be synergy between the both of us, does our strength compliment one another, in other words do we form a great team. Now of course, I will not force her to do biz with me, but since I will definitely try my hand at entrepreneurship (as most of you would know the reason why) , I really hope that my other half would give me the encouragement and support in any form whenI am in the process. Of course this type of thing can be reciprocate, if she wants to learn new skills, I would definitely show my support and encouragement as well. If she learns to cook or bake, no problem, just bring it to me and I will gladly do the taste test. This is the type of synergy I am looking for.
Secondly, she must be smart, not academic smart though. We work in a society, we do not work in a school. People can survive school by being academic smart, but when it comes to society, just for survival, you have to be smart in the domain you are working in and also be good in emotional intelligence and people skill. Now this type of thing has to be developed over time, so I do not expect her to be very good at people skill now, but most imptly she must have the type of smartness that can survive in this society.
Thirdly, definitely she must not drink or smoke or gamble for money. I don't like girls who does that. Smoking is bad for health and you are throwing money in the wrong way (my opinion of course). I rather use the money that is used to buy cigarettes or for drinking to spend it wisely on books, supplements or travelling the world. Gambling? Well what else can I say,
family can be broken through gambling.
Now if she is entrepreneur and investment minded, of course that is a welcome attribute, but definitely not a must have. The most impt one is the intelligence she must have and I must be able to see a good future with her. Guys, does that answer your qn? :D
Cheers!
The husband was trying his hand at frying fish fillet for us, guests. I think it was his first time trying his hand on it, so there were some embarrasing moment, and of course like all first time cook, some of the fish got burnt (actually when I look at it, it was not that bad, I might have done worst than him. Haha!) Of course being the guests, we were offered the better tasting & looking fish fillet. What I saw was something I hope I can bring to my relationship with my future wife (if there is one). The husband took out the 'defect' fish fillet and offering to his kids and wife, apologising to them for letting them eat the fillets, but the wife was very supportive, by telling her spouse that, she will eat whatever he cook. After marriage for more than 5 years, I am surprise to see this form of encouragement and also the affections between them still strong, because they still call each other 'Dear'.
Most of the time when I see couples that are married, this kind of show of affection seem to die down very fast. Sometimes when they go out, they even stop holding hands. And also the encouragement that they give to each other is gone. They are like two people living together because the marriage certificate dictate so.
For my friends out there who are reading this, some of you has asked me what kind of girl I am looking for. Well here is what I can say to you (but of course there are other criterias). Firstly, I must be able to see whether there can be synergy between the both of us, does our strength compliment one another, in other words do we form a great team. Now of course, I will not force her to do biz with me, but since I will definitely try my hand at entrepreneurship (as most of you would know the reason why) , I really hope that my other half would give me the encouragement and support in any form whenI am in the process. Of course this type of thing can be reciprocate, if she wants to learn new skills, I would definitely show my support and encouragement as well. If she learns to cook or bake, no problem, just bring it to me and I will gladly do the taste test. This is the type of synergy I am looking for.
Secondly, she must be smart, not academic smart though. We work in a society, we do not work in a school. People can survive school by being academic smart, but when it comes to society, just for survival, you have to be smart in the domain you are working in and also be good in emotional intelligence and people skill. Now this type of thing has to be developed over time, so I do not expect her to be very good at people skill now, but most imptly she must have the type of smartness that can survive in this society.
Thirdly, definitely she must not drink or smoke or gamble for money. I don't like girls who does that. Smoking is bad for health and you are throwing money in the wrong way (my opinion of course). I rather use the money that is used to buy cigarettes or for drinking to spend it wisely on books, supplements or travelling the world. Gambling? Well what else can I say,
family can be broken through gambling.
Now if she is entrepreneur and investment minded, of course that is a welcome attribute, but definitely not a must have. The most impt one is the intelligence she must have and I must be able to see a good future with her. Guys, does that answer your qn? :D
Cheers!
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